‘All the happiness in the world arises from wishing others to be happy’
‘All the happiness in this world, arises from wishing others to be happy’ Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life, Shantideva, Indian Buddhist Master c 600 BC
‘Try giving not getting and see what happens’ ‘Feel the Fear and do it anyway’ Susan Jeffers
Try cherishing others, really wanting them to be happy. Notice the effect it has on your day. Most of the time we are thinking about our own needs, our own happiness, which seems to be supremely important. It is part our programming to be looking out for ourselves, looking after ‘number one’, after all achieving great things in this life means not letting the other guy get one over on you, doesn’t it? Really? Has this truly served to make you happy? Maybe a fleeting sense of being right can make us happy for a short time. But long term – has it helped to give you the life you want? Isn’t it true that this sort of happiness quickly turns to frustration, disappointment, as another scenario comes up which catapults us out of that happy space and into another struggle.
When we think that others are just as important as us (after all, there is one of us and billions of other people on this planet – so who is more important?), we start to perform actions that will cause others them to be happy. Cherishing others is the real path towards being happy. When we are loving and kind to others our daily life becomes peaceful, happy, harmonious and meaningful. We can start by practising with friends and family – and see what happens. We can gradually extend these loving feelings towards everyone whose life comes into contact with ours. Everyone, not just those people who are easy to love and be well-disposed towards.
It takes a lot of practice, but it’s worth it. The effect is that many of our problems such as anger, jealousy, and selfish behaviour disappear, and our mind becomes calm and peaceful.The mind that cherishes others and wishes them well is a very precious mind, and is very rare in our society. But, let’s all give it a go today, and see what effect it has on our lives. If everyone did this on one day, on that day all disputes would cease, and war would be impossible.
As the Buddha said ‘The mind is everything. What you think you become’
A loving mind towards everyone makes us the embodiment of love.