How to be happy – all day long!
Want to be happy, but think you have to solve all your problems first? The truth is that all our problems come from our mind. How? When we have external difficulties, it is the unpleasant feelings that arise in our mind that cause us problems, not the external difficulty. It is our reaction to what happens outside of us, that needs to be the focus of our attention. External difficulties are not human problems. We can solve our inner problems by altering how we respond. We only have one short life, so solve your inner problems and you will experience permanent peace of mind which is true happiness. Something we are all searching for, and it’s right here within us!
We are all constantly searching for happiness outside of ourselves. ‘I’ll talk to this person, who won’t make me unhappy. I’ll apply for this job not that one, so I’ll be happy’. It’s moment to moment, we move towards happiness and away from unhappiness all day long. Yet it is what is in our mind that is the problem. We need to stop outsourcing our happiness, and take responsibility for our own mind. If we have no unpleasant feelings, we have no problems – despite what’s going on externally.
Are you having a good day? Or a bad day? It depends on us! Much of the time our mind is like a balloon in the wind – when things are going our way we’re happy. When something goes wrong, our happy feeling disappears. External conditions are not stable. If our happiness depends on these, then we are very vulnerable. We are in the hands of others, at the whim of circumstances.
If you want to be happy permanently, we need to make our mind a stable place of peace. Happiness and unhappiness are states of mind, so their real causes can’t be found outside the mind. If you make your mind a happy place of peace, you will be happy regardless. It’s not what is happening that is making us happy or unhappy, it is how we are responding.
Intellectually, we understand this, but how do we achieve this in our daily life?
Meditation comes into play here because it is a mental action of concentrating on a peaceful, positive state of mind. Try tapping into your own potential of a positive state of mind. We can do this now:
- Sit comfortably, feet on the floor, hands in your lap, downcast or closed eyes. Become aware of the sensation of the breath at the nostrils, and then as you breathe out imagine you are breathing out any unpleasant feelings. Breathe them away. You can visualise them leaving your body in the aspect of dark smoke.
- Then as you breathe in, imagine and believe that you are breathing in a clear, bright light which is the very nature of inner peace. You can imagine that this clear light, like light from the sun, fills your entire body and mind, and simply enjoy this inner peace coming from within.
- Then take that inner peace out with you into the world. We take it with us. Taking our happiness out for a walk, not leaving it on the meditation chair/cushion! Just like we take our dog for a walk. We just notice what the mind is doing now and then, ‘where has my peace gone?’, and then bring it back – focus once more on your breath, breathe away the negative, in dark smoke, breathe in the positive, as clear bright light, then make a determination to keep a happy state of mind throughout your day to benefit yourself and others. Try it as an experiment to see how it goes. You can use an affirmation to help:
‘Happiness and unhappiness are states of mind’
‘With a happy mind, I’ll be happy regardless. It is how I am responding that is the problem, not outside forces.’
‘I do not rely on anything outside of myself for my happiness. I have no problems when my mind is like clear light: peaceful, still and happy. This is my Higher Self, I am home.’