Can we accept this moment just as it is?
It is often difficult for us to accept our lives as they are, and we can spend a lot of time resisting what is.
Eckhart Tolle writes in ‘Stillness Speaks':
‘Whenever you deeply accept this moment as it is – no matter what form it takes – you are still, you are at peace.’
Sounds so simple, doesn’t it? In practice, it is much harder because old habits die hard! Most of are trying to get away from this moment, and on to the next one which we believe to be much more important. When we get to that moment, we think the same old tired thoughts about that one too, and so our day and night continues. We believe also that the past is more important than this moment. So, we are pulled backwards and forwards like puppets.
This is quite crazy – but it has become a mind-set most of us are in. As one coaching client said to me once: ‘I strive to be happy’. She came for a few sessions and decided Mindfulness was not for her. It is certainly not a quick fix, but at its core is a relaxed practice we can use our whole day, our whole lives – moment by moment. A new consciousness comes in, just by giving our full attention to this present moment, as our lives unfold. It is this sustained attention that ‘does the cooking’ to create the happiness we all seek, as Jon Kabat-Zinn talks about in his book ‘Wherever you go, there you are.’ It stops us ‘time-travelling’, and brings great relief to our exhausted minds and bodies.
So, try letting your complete attention rest on ‘Now’, this present moment right here. Do this now. Try giving your full attention to what you are doing now, as an activity in its own right, not as a bridge to get to the next and the one after that. You will always have a ‘To Do’ list, that much you can rely on! But your life, your ‘being’, exists right here, not in the future or the past, but now. As Thich writes: ‘The only moment you ever have to be truly alive is this one’. So, if we are missing this present moment, we are essentially sleep-walking through life. Let’s wake up, now, before our precious lives are over.
Try now, to accept this moment as it is – and all your activities, your thoughts, your relationships slowly begin to cook in the flame of this sustained awareness. We can achieve what we are really looking for: stillness and peace within. This is true happiness. Don’t look for permanent happiness anywhere else, you will always disappointed because things in our external world are always changing. Everything and everyone is in a constant state of flux. So, relax, accept this fact, breathe, and focus on Now.Those of us that have a yoga practice can gently choose which poses we are going to focus on today and move the body and mind into ‘Now’ in that way too, by giving our practice our undivided attention and care.
We wake up gently, and start to live again.